Self-Esteen

I have been paying a lot of attention to the comments women tend to make about themselves, not realizing that others are listening.  It's rare I hear something positive said, usually, it's self-depracating humor.  It makes me think about what messages women tend to "send out to the universe" when they're constantly putting themselves down.  Messages such as, "I'm so clumsy, I can't do anything right." "Years ago, I would have looked pretty good in that outfit, I'm too fat now to wear it, I'd look better in a tent!" "I'm too old to learn anything new, this is all I know how to do."  The list goes on and on...

As I listen, I think to myself, "Wow, I wonder if they know what those messages do to their own self-esteem?" "What do those remarks do to build them up, give them hope, promote positive self-image to friends and loved ones?" "How will negative self-talk create a brighter future for these women?"

It's critcal to feel worthy, capable, loveable and someone who can be counted upon in times of need and desired in times of celebration.  Women, I implore you to think about what you're saying to yourself, even in jest, pay attention-if what you're telling yourself is mostly negative self-talk, try to be aware of that and give yourself more positive messages.  It takes many more positive messages to undo one negative message...give yourself a break. You are just right in God's eyes and in the eyes of your friends and loved ones...remember to pat yourself on the back-your self-esteem will thank you for it!

Holiday Stress

Although this time of year is exciting for many, it is especially stressful.  Remember, if you don't take care of yourself, you can't take care of anyone else!  During this busy time remember to find ways to unwind, below are a few suggestions...

Call a friend and have a chat over a nice hot cup of chocolate.  Touching base with someone you care about over a hot drink is almost as good as sitting in the same room with them.  Talk about old times, up-coming plans, daydreams, anything but what you have left to do before the holidays!  This is time to "get away" and you'll be helping someone else to escape with you!

Take a walk, just a 15 minute walk is enough to "ground" you.  If you can get outside and connect with nature-even better! 

Set 20 minutes aside each day to do something you enjoy-read a book, take a nice bath, practice meditation-whatever works for you.  Make sure that you are "unavailable" during this time, don't answer the phone and get someone else to take care of kids and business for that time.

As you're scurrying about, do something nice for someone you meet...open the door, pay for a cup of coffee-smile...doing things for others gives us a lift to and, it's infectious!

These are just some ideas to get through this hectic time, take care of yourself-you're important!